Divorce is rampant in the world today, and counselors in all areas of expertise often have to deal with couples experiencing the emotional effects of divorce. This course will give you the tools you need to help people walk through the process of grief and forgiveness. The insights in this course will also help guide your clients toward building new relationships and blended families.
MLCD 101: Introduction to Divorce CoachingThere is a pressing need for competent Christian divorce coaches today. Jennifer Cisney, Dwight Bain, and Dr. Eric Scalise introduce this growing segment of life coaching and take a closer look at the various opportunities that are available. The differences between coaching, mediation, counseling, and legal assistance are covered.
MLCD 102: Managing the Early EmotionsMuch like any crisis or trauma, the early emotions of a pending divorce include shock, disbelief, denial, anger, and the pain associated with the loss. Divorce expert, Dr. Tom Whiteman, offers practical tips and strategies throughout the normal cycle of repression, redirection and reconciliation.
MLCD 103: Moving Toward AcceptanceOnce the early emotions have been experienced, there is a need for clients to make sure they continue to take the necessary steps in moving toward recovery. Dr. Tom Whiteman discusses the internal “bargaining” that takes place and how to reach a place of acceptance and returning to wholeness.
MLCD 104: Processing the Grief and LossWhile grief is universal, how loss and pain are handled is often unique and individual. Georgia Shaffer shares her personal insights into the dynamics of grief and loss by looking at a client’s general personality orientation (sanguine, melancholy, choleric, or phlegmatic), while also making sure enough time is allowed for the process.
MLCD 105: Understanding the Grief CycleBased on the seminal research of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and her work with death and catastrophic loss, grief can be understood in terms of a five-stage model. Georgia Shaffer helps clients understand their emotions through the process of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
MLCD 106: The Do’s and Don’ts in Divorce CoachingEffective coaching often depends on the ability to both understand a client’s experience and to ask the right questions. Dr. Eric Scalise dialogues with Jennifer Cisney and Beth Cleveland about their own divorce stories, on initial patterns of coping, setting reasonable goals, and connecting in new relationships versus remaining single.
MLCD 107: Forgiveness and Letting GoAs with any significant loss that involves a meaningful relationship, divorce can lead someone to a place of angry bitterness and lonely despair. Dr. David Stoop walks viewers through the critical role of forgiveness in divorce recovery, especially when it comes to wrestling with issues like trying to prove what’s right or wanting to get even.
MLCD 108: Next Steps: Building a New LifeAfter the grief process has run its course, clients must begin to consider their next steps in getting back to a healthy level of functioning. While this may not necessarily mean starting a new romance, Jennifer Cisney discusses the need for clients to take stock and evaluate relationships with family members, friends, and within their church community.
MLCD 109: New Beginnings: Five Keys to Starting OverPart of building a new life is the acceptance of having been divorced. Jennifer Cisney continues her discussion by sharing important keys in starting over, including the need to avoid a victim mindset, finding identity in God, having a balanced self-esteem, and considering the future in terms of jobs, finances, and ministry opportunities.
MLCD 110: Barriers to New RelationshipsMany people who have experienced divorce eventually desire and enter into new dating and/or significant relationships. The path can filled with potential barriers that must be understood. Dr. Tom Whiteman helps clients navigate their way with practical considerations, addressing emotional readiness, handling rejection, and finding security and significance.
MLCD 111: Finding New RelationshipsFollowing the decision to enter into new and significant relationships, issues related to basic needs, finances, security, personal confidence, and even sexuality, can surface. Dr. Tom Whiteman carefully addresses these important topics, especially when the outcome may be moving toward an eventual marriage.
MLCD 112: Now What? Living in a Blended FamilyThis lesson will give students time tested guidelines for helping children and tips to pass on to their parents. Divorced and step parent families do not have to be doomed to failure. With biblically based interventions, people can make a difference.